Ask Michelly: New date night ideas

 

You asked: "What are some different date ideas that I can recommend to my boyfriend? I am so tired of going on the same dinner and movie cliché date!"

 

Michelly answered: "If you can afford it, think about taking a little day trip somewhere. Maybe to the mountains if you live close by them or to a favorite park or maybe find a ranch and pay to go horseback riding for the afternoon.  You could even propose to him that you guys get tickets to a sporting event (basketball, baseball, football or even hockey) that way he gets his way of doing something he'd like to do and you don't have to order the same butternuts quash ravioli at a restaurant where they know you by name!"

 

 

Do you have any unique date ideas? Share them in the comments below!

 

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor) 

Ask Michelly: Long Distance Love

 

 

You asked: "When you're in a long distance relationship what is the best way to keep things from falling apart? How do you stay committed to each other without letting jealousy or suspicions run rapid?"

 

 

Michelly answered: "A long distance relationship definitely has its up and downs so there is no way of getting around that. It takes work. Communication is definitely important to any strong relationship, and even though it may be hard when you two aren't in the same city, it's something you have to keep in mind whenever you feel angry or jealous. If there comes a time where you feel like you're losing interest in the relationship or that maybe he/she is, talk to him when you are both free of distractions. You may find that he misses you as much as you miss him and you may able to find a solution to your jealousy or suspicions. However, if you can never find a time that is convenient for both of you to talk and work things out, it would be best to end the relationship before things completely spiral out of control and you get hurt even more. Skype is also a great resource for long distance relationships. A good way to stay connected and committed to each other while you're apart is to schedule cute little interactive dates via Skype and during this date there cannot be any distractions. No cell phones on it the background or TV's. Just the two of you being able to reconnect and reassure each other of the commitments that you have made. But do remember that as much as it is important that you keep your relationship intact and healthy, it's also important that you live your own life as well. Don't dwell on the days that you can't talk or have Skype dates. Instead join an exercise group or whatever hobby you like, so you will be able to kill some of the time in-between."

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)  

 

 

Ask Michelly: Should I Date Someone With Kids?

 You asked: "Is it ever okay to date someone with children and how long should I be dating someone before you actually "meet the kids?"

 

 

 

Michelly answered: "This is a hit or miss question because it depends on who your comfortable dating and if you're okay with being secondary in a relationship. I say secondary because you must know that his children will always come first. You have to get used to the idea that while you have a romantic date organized for the both of you, these plans could change at the drop of the hat. If you're comfortable with supporting your man and helping him be a great father, then I think it's okay for you to date someone with children. As far as when you should meet his children, I think you shouldn't meet them for awhile, for about a year when your relationship seems more long-term than just a quick fling. Remember you don't want to confuse his kid(s) if one day you're hanging out with them and a week later you are nowhere to be found."

 

 

Have you ever dated someone with kids? Offer your advice in the comments below!


-Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor) 

Ask Michelly: Boyfriend Blunders!

You asked: My new boyfriend saw the pictures I still have of me and my ex on my cell phone. Obviously he was furious, so how do I reassure him that I am committed to him and do not have feelings for my ex?

 

 

 

Michelly answered: I would just continue to reassure him that because you've been so busy having fun with him that you forgot that you even had the pictures. Delete them in front of him if you have to so he knows that they are gone for good and cannot be retrieved elsewhere.

Do you have pictures of your ex lingering around? Leave your advice or opinion in the comments below.


-Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)

 

 



Ask Michelly: New Relationship Jitters!

 

We've decided to start a new feature on this blog where you can submit your relationship, life or career questions in and we'll answer them. Some of them will be answered by a couple of people where others will be answered by a person who can relate most to the topic at hand. Feel free to submit your questions publicly or privately and we will try to answer all of them as efficiently as possible.

 

Here's a look at how this works:

 

 

You Asked: "When is it appropriate to be intimate with someone you're newly dating? After 5 dates? 2 weeks? A month? And what do you risk (emotionally) if you are intimate too soon in a relationship?"

 

 

Michelly's Advice: "In my personal opinion and experiences, it is best to wait until you are comfortable and you have gotten to know the person on a more intimate level. Of course, it really comes down to what you decide, what you will and won't do and if you really feel like it is the best decision for your relationship. However, if you do feel that you may be getting intimate too early in the relationship you may risk the potential of this budding into a serious relationship, especially if he isn't as committed as you are and if that's the case it may just turn into a "booty-call" type of relationship. Overall you have to listen to your listen to your heart and go with your head. If you honestly feel like being intimate with someone on the first date is for you, then by all means go for it. Everyone is different and will have different opinions regarding this subject. You just have to know what type of person you are, who you want to be remembered as and don't let yourself be pressured into being someone or something you're not."

 

Have you ever been in a similar situation? Do you have any advice to offer? Share it in a comment or message! This topic is open for discussion!

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)