Ask Michelly: New date night ideas

 

You asked: "What are some different date ideas that I can recommend to my boyfriend? I am so tired of going on the same dinner and movie cliché date!"

 

Michelly answered: "If you can afford it, think about taking a little day trip somewhere. Maybe to the mountains if you live close by them or to a favorite park or maybe find a ranch and pay to go horseback riding for the afternoon.  You could even propose to him that you guys get tickets to a sporting event (basketball, baseball, football or even hockey) that way he gets his way of doing something he'd like to do and you don't have to order the same butternuts quash ravioli at a restaurant where they know you by name!"

 

 

Do you have any unique date ideas? Share them in the comments below!

 

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor) 

Ask Michelly: Long Distance Love

 

 

You asked: "When you're in a long distance relationship what is the best way to keep things from falling apart? How do you stay committed to each other without letting jealousy or suspicions run rapid?"

 

 

Michelly answered: "A long distance relationship definitely has its up and downs so there is no way of getting around that. It takes work. Communication is definitely important to any strong relationship, and even though it may be hard when you two aren't in the same city, it's something you have to keep in mind whenever you feel angry or jealous. If there comes a time where you feel like you're losing interest in the relationship or that maybe he/she is, talk to him when you are both free of distractions. You may find that he misses you as much as you miss him and you may able to find a solution to your jealousy or suspicions. However, if you can never find a time that is convenient for both of you to talk and work things out, it would be best to end the relationship before things completely spiral out of control and you get hurt even more. Skype is also a great resource for long distance relationships. A good way to stay connected and committed to each other while you're apart is to schedule cute little interactive dates via Skype and during this date there cannot be any distractions. No cell phones on it the background or TV's. Just the two of you being able to reconnect and reassure each other of the commitments that you have made. But do remember that as much as it is important that you keep your relationship intact and healthy, it's also important that you live your own life as well. Don't dwell on the days that you can't talk or have Skype dates. Instead join an exercise group or whatever hobby you like, so you will be able to kill some of the time in-between."

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)  

 

 

The M&M Report: Get Over Him, Girl!

 

You asked: "How do you move on from a love even when you've tried to go out on other dates and nothing seems to work out?"

 

 

 

Michelly answered: "Ahh yes that is a good question and there really isn't a wrong or right answer either. I would suggest that you keep trying to go out on dates, take your time and  do not feel pressured to get emotionally involved or change who you are so you can be in a new relationship.  Maybe put yourself out there more frequently by trying going out with friends more or sign up for one of your favorite activities and you never know you might bond with someone there. Also, surround yourself with positive people like your friends and family. A good support system can help you through almost anything and before you know it, the one you can't get over will soon be a distant memory."

 

 

Maddy answered: "First of all, get rid of any pictures, gifts or anything that reminds you of him out of your house. Keeping those things is like keeping your emotions bottled up, you're going to torture yourself by keeping those as reminders until you're finally ready to explode... which in your case sounds like you might continue to give yourself reasons to cry over him. I know this advice sounds really harsh, but trust me it works. Keep in mind that men (when they are the dumper) tend to get over a relationship faster than we do. So here's your chance to stick it to him! I second what Michelly says, go out with your girlfriends "sew your wild oats" and all those other cheesy clichés I could use in this response. Just promise us that you won't torture yourself by holding onto the past when you're future is so much brighter."

 

 

Maddy (Ruby Red Contributor)

Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)