The M&M Report: Choosing the Right Career Path

 

You asked: "How do you know which career is right for you?"

 

 

Michelly answered: "That's a wonderful question! I would suggest trying out a couple jobs, really get some work experience under your belt and find out what your passions, interests are and what are your strengths and weaknesses. At the end of the day career choice is based on which career would make you the happiest long-term. A great resource is OCCinfo (http://alis.alberta.ca/occinfo/Content/RequestAction.asp?format=html&aspAction=GetHomePage&Page=Home) which hosts a bunch of job descriptions, education requirements and even salary!"

 

 

Maddy answered: "I agree with Michelly tenfold. If there was anything I would change about high school is that I think work experience classes should be mandatory. It's never fun leaving school and being thrown into the unexpected. You'll know when you're ready for college and working to save a little more dough never hurt anyone! That being said, when you're looking at colleges and different degree options make sure you sit down with an academic advisor! It may take up some of your time but it will be worth it. The last thing you want to do is enroll in something and not finish it because you hate it (trust me I've been there). Tip: When you go for academic advising, make sure they go through the course material with you for each degree option - not just the program requirements and transfer features. Going through the course material helps because then you will know what you're in for during the next four years of your studies."

 

 

Have you found the career of your dreams? Tell us your experience to achieve your career in the comments below!

 

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)

-Maddy (Ruby Red Contributor)



Ask Michelly: Should I Date Someone With Kids?

 You asked: "Is it ever okay to date someone with children and how long should I be dating someone before you actually "meet the kids?"

 

 

 

Michelly answered: "This is a hit or miss question because it depends on who your comfortable dating and if you're okay with being secondary in a relationship. I say secondary because you must know that his children will always come first. You have to get used to the idea that while you have a romantic date organized for the both of you, these plans could change at the drop of the hat. If you're comfortable with supporting your man and helping him be a great father, then I think it's okay for you to date someone with children. As far as when you should meet his children, I think you shouldn't meet them for awhile, for about a year when your relationship seems more long-term than just a quick fling. Remember you don't want to confuse his kid(s) if one day you're hanging out with them and a week later you are nowhere to be found."

 

 

Have you ever dated someone with kids? Offer your advice in the comments below!


-Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor) 

Ask Michelly: Boyfriend Blunders!

You asked: My new boyfriend saw the pictures I still have of me and my ex on my cell phone. Obviously he was furious, so how do I reassure him that I am committed to him and do not have feelings for my ex?

 

 

 

Michelly answered: I would just continue to reassure him that because you've been so busy having fun with him that you forgot that you even had the pictures. Delete them in front of him if you have to so he knows that they are gone for good and cannot be retrieved elsewhere.

Do you have pictures of your ex lingering around? Leave your advice or opinion in the comments below.


-Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)

 

 



Ask Michelly: New Relationship Jitters!

 

We've decided to start a new feature on this blog where you can submit your relationship, life or career questions in and we'll answer them. Some of them will be answered by a couple of people where others will be answered by a person who can relate most to the topic at hand. Feel free to submit your questions publicly or privately and we will try to answer all of them as efficiently as possible.

 

Here's a look at how this works:

 

 

You Asked: "When is it appropriate to be intimate with someone you're newly dating? After 5 dates? 2 weeks? A month? And what do you risk (emotionally) if you are intimate too soon in a relationship?"

 

 

Michelly's Advice: "In my personal opinion and experiences, it is best to wait until you are comfortable and you have gotten to know the person on a more intimate level. Of course, it really comes down to what you decide, what you will and won't do and if you really feel like it is the best decision for your relationship. However, if you do feel that you may be getting intimate too early in the relationship you may risk the potential of this budding into a serious relationship, especially if he isn't as committed as you are and if that's the case it may just turn into a "booty-call" type of relationship. Overall you have to listen to your listen to your heart and go with your head. If you honestly feel like being intimate with someone on the first date is for you, then by all means go for it. Everyone is different and will have different opinions regarding this subject. You just have to know what type of person you are, who you want to be remembered as and don't let yourself be pressured into being someone or something you're not."

 

Have you ever been in a similar situation? Do you have any advice to offer? Share it in a comment or message! This topic is open for discussion!

 

- Michelly (Ruby Red Contributor)